Reinvention…running, conforming or evolving?

At any given time, we are smarter than we once were, thinner, rounder, have less cash reserves, are more addled, maybe less concerned about how we’re perceived or just done with the status quo. “Is this all there is?” on that last bit…haunting yet inspiring, right?

Generally considered parts of life, these moments can be irksome, cause for celebration, humbling or rife with opportunities to progress into our next phase, should we choose to pay close enough attention.

Evolution, maturing, moving forward, shedding of one’s troubles…however you slice it, reinvention can be a highly rewarding occurrence. Potentially painful, sure but fulfilling & even exciting in ways that aren’t always fully visible in the moment. “What if?” can move from terror to delight, depending on your mindset.

Because I’m a classic, type A, if I’m doing this I’m going to crush it kind of overthinker, I like to float a few questions when I’m feeling the tides of change hitting my door…

Am I seeking redemption? Is there an experience in the rear view that continues to haunt me? Do I need to show others that I actually know what I’m doing, at least part of the time?

Looking to finally fit in with the so called cool crowd? There isn’t a person alive who doesn’t seek validation from someone they’ve deemed the bastion of the it factor.

Trying to flee unpleasant pieces of the past? Perhaps I didn’t know what to do or say in those moments but I sure as hell do now. Should the opportunity arise, I’ll be ready.

Or its simply time to be the person I’ve always been meant to be? This is the big one, because it indicates, in equal ways, that I may be holding back out of fear of what might happen or that my judgement has been a bit lacking with who or what I’ve allowed in & that has caused a pause in personal progression.

All of these can be true.

So…when we’ve decided to make a change, we’ve already gained ground, regardless of the reason. What isn’t working, isn’t working & its brave to believe that something could be better, different or just fresher than it was. “You mean the daily won’t always be this way?” Wow, just wow.

If you’re wanting to prove to yourself that you’ve still got that elusive it despite all evidence to the contrary, perhaps attempt #972 will be the one. Life is a numbers game, so roll that dice.

If you’re thinking that keeping up with the Joneses or their latest Instagram flaunt of a perfect, curated life will bring you joy, do it. While comparison can be a thief, a bit of competition can be just the motivation one needs to elevate their situation.

If haunted memories take up more time than they ought to, move on out & upward. Tell them to eff off & don’t look back. Remind yourself that you can do anything, because you can.

Or if you’ve always fancied yourself a poet, a gourmet cook, are afraid of karaoke but more afraid of not getting on that stage or you’re just finally ready to be an embracer of life…be.those.people.

Even the tiniest sliver of modification can bring about the most profound of results. Grab that gorgeous leather handbag you’ve been coveting, it will add a spring to your step & a smile to your soul. Always use the same ingredients in your favorite dish? Toss in something spicy & you just might have a revelation. Be your bold self & tell someone what they mean to you. Return to wearing your reliable watch. Take a class. Seek guidance. Realize you’re a lover of hugs & give them freely.

As far as we know we only get a single crack at this thing called life, so whatever are you waiting for?